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Nosey (nosey)
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Post Number: 24
Registered: 4-2004
Posted From: 66.153.113.238
Posted on Thursday, April 15, 2004 - 2:05 pm: Edit PostDelete PostView Post/Check IPPrint PostMove Post (Moderator/Admin Only)Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

I know this hasn't anything to do with Soul Music but I would like some insight from the fellas who post on this forum.

This past week has been a trip literally and figuratively! I witnessed two men flip out and in need of some intervention, imo. The first was on Saturday past at an alumni meeting where the president went off on another board member for a perceived "slight". Now this person has been going off on folks for several years totally unprovoked and unchallenged. (He ranted so much and cussed that I left!) If you call asking a question or having a different opinion provocation then, I guess you can say he's being provoked. The second was Tuesday past at choir rehearsal. The director was darn near crying because of our "attitude". Mind you this sucker never comes every Tuesday like he's supposed to and sometimes doesn't show up on Sunday! When he does come we have to quickly learn at least two convoluted songs by Sunday and since we may not catch on fast enough........then he says we have attitudes. What?!

My question is. Are men going through more challenges than women these days? I am utterly confused and I am truly going to let those aforementioned folks know just how I feel (with love of course) that they need an intervention if they go off again.
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Richard Felstead (felstead2001)
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Post Number: 8
Registered: 4-2004
Posted From: 128.40.91.183
Posted on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 5:14 am: Edit PostDelete PostView Post/Check IPPrint PostMove Post (Moderator/Admin Only)Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Are men going through more challenges than women thesedays ?.

No, but men are usually less mentally equiped to handle certain situations.

Do women have to hold down a part-time job, do some of the housework, cook for their partner, wash and iron the clothes, bring up the kids, and still find the time to be a lover too. Yes.

Jesus, most men can't even get their inflated, insecure, heads wrapped around that one.

Yet we expect our women too. !!!!!.

Go figure.

Men can't multi-task very well, that's a fact.

If men had to try and conjure what most women do in a normal day then we'd be booking trips to the funny farm before the end of the week.

To answer your question Nosey, I think some men have a real problem when another individual challenging their perspective on something.

It's all down to having not enough confidence, and too much testosterone.

Perhaps. :-)))
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Ritchie (ritchie)
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Username: ritchie

Post Number: 17
Registered: 4-2004
Posted From: 62.254.0.32
Posted on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 6:11 am: Edit PostDelete PostView Post/Check IPPrint PostMove Post (Moderator/Admin Only)Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Speaking as a guy who has spent the last eight years bringing up two children after their mother walked out on us, I'd politely beg to differ with Richard's less-than-flattering generic profile of hapless and helpless men in a domestic situation. FYI, I run a small online business, publish several websites, moderate a record company forum, and am actively involved behind the scenes with a certain well-known record label.

I'm also quite capable of getting my head around washing, ironing, shopping, and all those other daily tasks to which men are apparently unsuited. As for being a testosterone-charged lover - chance would be a fine thing! For the past eight years, looking after my children has been my number one priority. Being there for them seemed rather more important than chasing women...

Today, my son (now 18) has left school and lives happily with his girlfriend in Birmingham. My daughter (now 16) still lives with me and scores almost all straight A's in her final year at school. The funny farm? I just don't have time for nonsense like that! :-)

(Message edited by Ritchie on April 16, 2004)
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Richard Felstead (felstead2001)
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Username: felstead2001

Post Number: 10
Registered: 4-2004
Posted From: 128.40.91.183
Posted on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 9:28 am: Edit PostDelete PostView Post/Check IPPrint PostMove Post (Moderator/Admin Only)Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Ritchie, I was of course generalising. :-))
There are men out there that are more than capable of holding down all those things that you suggest.

I would say without wishing to be controversial again, that you would be a growing exception.

I know a few mates that are like yourself, in fact, I was thrown into the domestic situation of learning how to iron, cook etc ( minus the kids ) many years ago myself.
It was one of the best things that ever happened.

Appologies if you found my remarks offensive, but I was being a little flipant.

There is the other side of the coin though, what I would call your average Jerry Springer participant. I'm sure you know what I mean. (wink)

I think on the whole, men are more prone to "losing it", temper wise, quicker than women.

Unless of course it's "that time of the month".
( there I go generalising again )
:-))

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Ritchie (ritchie)
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Username: ritchie

Post Number: 20
Registered: 4-2004
Posted From: 62.254.0.32
Posted on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 9:53 am: Edit PostDelete PostView Post/Check IPPrint PostMove Post (Moderator/Admin Only)Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Richard - no offence taken, as I'm sure none was intended! I just thought folks might care to hear a little about life on the other side of the equasion :-)
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ralph (ralph)
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Post Number: 28
Registered: 3-2004
Posted From: 209.240.205.61
Posted on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 11:05 am: Edit PostDelete PostView Post/Check IPPrint PostMove Post (Moderator/Admin Only)Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

My brother raised his two kids alone when he was in the thick of things at Motown. I always admired what a great father he was to those kids and his ability to see humor in the day to day problems of dealing with a family.
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Lynn Bruce (lynn_bruce)
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Username: lynn_bruce

Post Number: 11
Registered: 4-2004
Posted From: 68.41.110.49
Posted on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 1:06 pm: Edit PostDelete PostView Post/Check IPPrint PostMove Post (Moderator/Admin Only)Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

I have three close friends("Bud,""Jack",and "Mary")that help me through those stressful times. LOL
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Larry (larry)
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Username: larry

Post Number: 13
Registered: 4-2004
Posted From: 216.23.183.2
Posted on Friday, April 16, 2004 - 5:01 pm: Edit PostDelete PostView Post/Check IPPrint PostMove Post (Moderator/Admin Only)Ban Poster IP (Moderator/Admin only)

Bud and Mary of the great soul trio, "Jack, and The Family Spliff".

If I recall, they often play at desserties.

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