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  jrlo (jrlo) 2-Debutant Username: jrlo Post Number: 13 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 24.130.218.105 |
Today I listened to "Dance with my father" by Luther and "Unforgettable" with Natalie and Nat. Those songs always make me misty eyed becauce they express a longing and a pain for a father that is so very missed. I did'nt have a father growing up. I only saw my "father" three times that I can remember. I was 6 then I saw him when I was 18...saw him twice after I found him then he disappeared. Never heard from again. I always promised myself that my kids would have a father, and I thank God that I kept that promise. My husband is a great dad, and his girls love him. I always wondered what it would be like to have a dad around growing up. I always envied friends who had dads at home. What memories do you have of your dads? What songs remind you of your dad, or what artists did (or do)your dads listen to? Maybe I should have saved this topic for father's day! (smile) | ||
ralph (ralph) Moderator Username: ralph Post Number: 82 Registered: 3-2004 Posted From: 209.240.205.61 |
jrlo, My father recently passed. I was fortunate to have him through my life. He was always supportive of my music career. At times he would give us guys in the band his thoughts on some older, obscure song he thought we should record. One was.." The Music Goes Round And Round ( And Comes Out Here )" We thought that was a real hoot but he was always dead serious. Maybe we should have listened to him. Anyway, I know I was a lucky guy to have Russ Terrana for a father. I miss him. | ||
Ritchie (ritchie) 4-Laureate Username: ritchie Post Number: 75 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 62.254.0.32 |
Talking of fatherly suggestions... way back when, my group used to rehearse at the lead guitarist's house, and his parents were totally supportive. Pete's dad once suggested a song, but we never worked out what he meant. To this day, I've still never heard of a song called "The Valley On The Hill"  (Message edited by Ritchie on April 24, 2004) | ||
ralph (ralph) Moderator Username: ralph Post Number: 84 Registered: 3-2004 Posted From: 209.240.205.61 |
Ritchie, Maybe both of our bands missed a shot at hit records because we weren't listening all that carefully. | ||
jrlo (jrlo) 2-Debutant Username: jrlo Post Number: 14 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 24.130.218.105 |
Ralph, I am so sorry about your dad's passing. He sounds like a terrific guy! You were very blessed to have him in your life. Thanks for sharing! By the way...dont' beat yourself over the head too much..you know kids never listen! I'm finding that out now!! When we become adults we look back and say gee...dad/mom were kind of smart after all!!! I'm still waitng with my kids. I have a preteen daughter that I try to give advice to....you know the rest of the story!! LOL! | ||
SisDetroit (sis) 3-Pundit Username: sis Post Number: 32 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 68.42.211.240 |
My dad was my running buddy. If it had not been for him, I would never have heard all of those blues and spirituals that I love today. He was a bass singer, and would sing throughout the day. Every Sunday morning, before any traffic is on the road, I would go over to his house, and he would fix breakfast for me. He and I would eat, and listen to the Sunday morning broadcast, and talk about the groups. Later, we would go to a singing program, and mingle with our favorite groups. After that, we would go back to his house, and blast the record player with gospel music, and sing together. My mother would say "Turn that dam thing down." :o) When he passed in 1992, I stopped singing. I stopped playing music for years. I stopped going to gospel shows until recently. It's not the same. | ||
DyvaNaye (westside314) 5-Doyen Username: westside314 Post Number: 188 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 152.163.252.166 |
I have had the blessing of 2 father figures in my life...my biological father and my step father...I lost my 'blood' father in 1996 and it still feels like yesterday, and my stepdad in 2002...and that feels like today...My 2 fathers knew each other, repected each other and both were 'Dapper Dons'. My mom had excellent taste in men, I must say, the latter being the love of her life. They were friends from childhood and reunited in the late 70's and married later on...the stuff that dreams are made of...they re-discovered one another at a family members wedding...the rest was history. My natural father was happy for her,and thanked her for raising his children well. Both men and my Mom were connected to the world of music one way or another and my upbringing never lacked for music or the quest for it, that's for sure. I miss my patriarchs...sigh... | ||
GOAT (goat) 3-Pundit Username: goat Post Number: 39 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 64.228.146.107 |
Here's a wild story for all of you. When I was about 11/2 mt Dad and Mother split up. My Mom remarried and for about 17 years of my life I only knew my stepfather (I called him Dad because that was what he was to me. I even used his last name even though I did not have it legally changed). My father passed away when I was 17. Pretty rough couple of years after that (and even today it is hard to deal with at times). My Mother and my biological father met a few years later again. It was slow going as my Mother didn't know how I would react to it. I can honestly say that I hve known my biological father for 12 years now and he is a wonderful man. I call him Dad too. As that is what he has become to me. So I, like Dyva have been blessed enough to have two Fathers. The Lord works in mysterious and wonderful ways. | ||
Soul Sister (soul_sister) 4-Laureate Username: soul_sister Post Number: 105 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 68.73.160.101 |
"I Want A Girl"(just like the girl that married dear old Dad)-The Madlads *************** A bad Mamma jamma. S.S. | ||
Dinelle (dinelle_watson) 1-Arriviste Username: dinelle_watson Post Number: 1 Registered: 3-2004 Posted From: 66.157.25.16 |
My mom and dad split up when I was only 2 or 3 years old. A few years after that, they became friends. I still see him on the weekends too about 13 or 14 years later. Now, around my mom got remarried just a few months ago and I never saw so happy before. | ||
Lady Mystique (ladymystique) 5-Doyen Username: ladymystique Post Number: 229 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 216.222.243.111 |
My dad was barely around when I was growing up...I think I saw him about less than 10 times growing up, but my stepdad was (and still is) there for me. I call him that even though my mum and him aren't together anymore. | ||
Rodmann (rodmann) 4-Laureate Username: rodmann Post Number: 92 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 12.221.46.129 |
Ralph, that's hilarious that your dad thought that someone should record 'The Music Goes Round And Around' again. I've always thought the same thing! I'm sure that the lyrics were written innocently enough (or were they?) back in the 30's but to someone with a dirty mind (like me sometimes) that song is downright filthy! LOL. "WELL I BLOW THROUGH HERE, AND THE MUSIC GOES ROUND & ROUND AND IT COMES OUT HERE" LMAO! I'm surprised that it was never covered by Jayne Mansfield, Mamie Van Doren, Nancy Sinatra or any of the other sex-kittens that recorded all of those Hi-Fi Lp's back in the 50's and 60's. RALPH, YOUR POPS KNEW WHAT HE WAS TALKING ABOUT! I think suggestive lyrics like that would've went over big time! | ||
ralph (ralph) Moderator Username: ralph Post Number: 93 Registered: 3-2004 Posted From: 209.240.205.61 |
Rodmann, Geez man..getting this message from you of all people really makes me wonder if I blew it big time with this song. And where in the hell did you learn of this song? You're only 23. Sometimes you amaze me pal! | ||
Kevin Goins - KevGo (kevgo) 3-Pundit Username: kevgo Post Number: 61 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 64.115.136.66 |
Jrlo, Ralph & Company: My late father was my best friend, especially during by teen, college and adult years. He was the one who introduced me to jazz, gospel and early R&B music when I was little (we used to play "air guitar & air organ" to his Jimmy Smith/Wes Montgomery albums!) and encouraged me to become a musician (he bought my first alto saxophone when I was ten). Dad attended every music recital I sang in and every parade I marched. When I was offered my very first job in radio (at age sixteen) Dad encouraged me to pursue employment. During my college years, he was my support when I was getting my education. Although he wasn't thrilled about my moving to NYC at first, Dad encouraged me to move up in the music business and start a record label. Sadly, he passed in 1997 before I could do the latter. Yet, I know he was proud of what I accomplished so far in life and that he's in the heavens watching over me always. In loving memory of Reverend James Allen Goins, Sr. (November 20, 1930 - August 26, 1997). Your son, Kevin Goins - KevGo | ||
jrlo (jrlo) 2-Debutant Username: jrlo Post Number: 17 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 169.3.74.205 |
Hi KevGo! Thank you somuch for sharing your memories of your dad. Sounds like he was a wonderful father! I would have given ANYTHING to have had a dad like that. I have some regrets in my life...one of my biggest ones is not having a father. Now adays people are so quick to diminish the importance of fathers. Fathers are so much needed, and play a big part in our make up. I think I would have accomplished a lot more in my life if I had a great dad. My mom was clinically depressed and epileptic and raised 3 children by herself. Maybe all of our problems wouldn't have vanished with a dad in the house, but I think things would have been a lot more bearable, especially for my brother. Sorry...I went off on a tangent...feeling a little weepy today! Have a great week! | ||
GOAT (goat) 3-Pundit Username: goat Post Number: 46 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 64.228.146.245 |
True to that jrlo. Today most fathers are either seen as a wallet, or no-good. Sad, that we have replaced the derogatory views of women and replaced it with men. When we should have gotten rid of it all in the first place. | ||
Gary (gary) 2-Debutant Username: gary Post Number: 20 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 66.73.238.5 |
This topic is rather bittersweet for me. Fortunately, my dad is still alive. Unfortunately, we have never been particularly close. Lately, I have had reason to reflect on what I could have done in the past to foster a closer relationship with him. His health is not good these days, and I am obviously feeling some guilt for not trying harder to get along with him. Anyway, it so happens that today (4/26) is his 88th birthday, and I wish him all the best. | ||
GOAT (goat) 3-Pundit Username: goat Post Number: 47 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 64.228.146.245 |
Then I recommend starting now and giving him a call. (Always be the bigger man ) | ||
Gary (gary) 2-Debutant Username: gary Post Number: 21 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 66.73.238.5 |
Thanks for the input, Goat It so happens we had a big family celebration yesterday. He and I talk all the time, we're just not very close emotionally. | ||
Rodmann (rodmann) 4-Laureate Username: rodmann Post Number: 95 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 12.221.46.129 |
Hey Ralph. When I was a kid my grandmother (RIP) bought me a huge box of old 78's from a yard sale, mistakenly thinking that I could play them on my little record player that was only meant for 45's. LOL. I begged and begged my mother to get me a turntable that I could play them on and after weeks she finally got me an old used one from somewhere. And that's how I started collecting records. It all started with Big Band 78's and later on I moved into Soul 45's and LP's. One of my very first records in that box was 'The Music Goes Round And Around' by Tommy Dorsey & His Orchestra. I don't have one decent memory of my father to share with you folks but thanks for making me think of my grandmother who passed away about a year and a half ago. It's only fitting since Mother's Day is right around the corner. | ||
GOAT (goat) 3-Pundit Username: goat Post Number: 48 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 64.228.147.161 |
That's tough Gary. A friend of mine has the same type of Father. He loves himn dearly but no hugs, and not too much encouragement. But when his father is with his friends, he talks about his son all of the time. PAX | ||
Moe (moe) 3-Pundit Username: moe Post Number: 46 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 24.140.73.33 |
Hello everyone, It's funny I should come across this thread today. I just came back from taking my dad to the cardiologist. In February, he suddenly became very ill & had to have emergency heart surgery, (& a very difficult surgery it was). Through what I truly believe to be divine intervention, he made it.......when I discovered how ill he was I remembered all he & my mom sacrificed to put me through school (all the nights he sat up with me when I had periods of self-doubt). There isn't a day that goes by now that I don't thank God I have him still in my life. A few of you on the Forum knew of this & I will always remember your constant support! Live on Leo........!! | ||
ralph (ralph) Moderator Username: ralph Post Number: 96 Registered: 3-2004 Posted From: 209.240.205.61 |
And Leo raised a great Daughter too. Rodmann, I didn't even know it was the Dorsey orchestra that did the song. You probably had a good little education playing all those old 78's. Your mom did you a nice favor. | ||
Mike Sku (mike_sku) 2-Debutant Username: mike_sku Post Number: 11 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 64.9.11.62 |
My father and I never saw eye to eye on my interest in music wheile I was growing up, but in his final years we used to travel to the casinos in Atlantic City during the summer, and of course, I had to have my music, my cassettes, for the drive down. Of course, I played the Supremes a lot, and one time Dad heard "Always in My Heart" from the girls' Holland-Dozier-Holland album and asked who was singing. He was surprised at my answer and said, "I never knew they (the Supremes) could sing like that." That comment meant a lot to me. | ||
Bong-Man (bongman) 1-Arriviste Username: bongman Post Number: 5 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 63.148.123.128 |
My Dad had to bail me out of jail once when I was 18. He didn't say one word on the way home. When we pulled in the drive-way, he shut off the car, stared straight ahead and said, "Son...I want you to know you've been somewhere I've never been." He never said another word, and didn't have to. | ||
Rodmann (rodmann) 4-Laureate Username: rodmann Post Number: 97 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 12.221.46.129 |
Ralph, Tommy Dorsey's Orchestra was just one of many bands that recorded 'The Music Goes Round And Around'. Joel Whitburn's Pop Memories book states that Tommy had the biggest hit with the song though. I don't really think that hits were all that important back in the 30's and 40's because almost every orchestra and singer plugged the same songs on records and radio to sell the sheet music. You're right about my mother doing me a nice favor. Those 78's have been quite a musical education. What started out as one box from a yard sale has now became a collection of over 700 78's. It's nice to hear those old songs played the way that they were written. I also like to hear how the singers sang things straight and stuck close to the original arrangement without all of the over-soulin'. In fact, I don't care for Etta James' or any of the other Soul remakes of the song 'At Last' because I'm used to the original version by Glenn Miller & His Orchestra. I'm sorry jrlo if this is off topic but Ralph made me think of some good memories. | ||
ralph (ralph) Moderator Username: ralph Post Number: 104 Registered: 3-2004 Posted From: 209.240.205.61 |
Rodmann, I think your 78 collection alone is a mind blowing education. Thanks for the history lesson. Actually I have heard the GM version of At Last. It suprised me because I really do like the Etta James version. It was interesting to hear it played so straight. | ||
jrlo (jrlo) 3-Pundit Username: jrlo Post Number: 59 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 24.130.218.105 |
Rodmann, No need to apologize sweetie!!! Rap on brother...rap on.... I need a break anyway...all of the posts make me cry! | ||
ralph (ralph) Moderator Username: ralph Post Number: 107 Registered: 3-2004 Posted From: 209.240.205.61 |
jrlo, Go ahead and cry sweetie. Here's a big hug from your Soulful Detroit family. | ||
Kevin Goins - KevGo (kevgo) 4-Laureate Username: kevgo Post Number: 85 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 64.115.136.66 |
Jrlo: XXXXXXXXXXXOOOOOOOOOOOOO and one big from yours truly, and thanks for the kind words. Your mom did the best she could, for she had to be both mom and dad, & that isn't easy. As Ralph said, you have a family here among us. With warm regards, Kevin Goins - KevGo | ||
jrlo (jrlo) 3-Pundit Username: jrlo Post Number: 61 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 169.3.74.205 |
You guys are going to get me crying again!! Thank you KevGo and Ralph......I love all of you guys too!!! Yes ..my mom did do the best she could. she raised the 3 of us with good morals and she did keep us off the streets and out of trouble. So I have to give her props for that. She is now in an assisted living facility and her memory is fading. While I do speak with her, I should call her more often.... Expressing all of this is making me realize that. God bless Jeannean | ||
SisDetroit (sis) 3-Pundit Username: sis Post Number: 50 Registered: 4-2004 Posted From: 68.42.211.240 |
Moms are the salt of the earth. When I visit my 82 year old mother, I take a cd over there. :o) I purposely blast the music, and "now" she says: "That sounds nice. It sure brings back great memories." (((To all MOTHERS))) |
